Sunday, February 14, 2010

Happy Love Day!!

Jeremy and I had a nice date planned last night, but it fell through when we both were battling headaches. I was feeling a little sorry for myself, but then we were awakened this morning bright and early with breakfast in bed and a Happy Valentine’s Day song. We weren’t expecting it, and I was just so overcome with love for our wonderful kids. Throughout the day we continued to see little acts of kindness from them. Parker let me stay in bed while he got Elli up, fed her, and put her in the bath. He also made Xander a fried egg sandwich (Parker’s specialty). Pretty good for a nine-year-old! Taylor worked for over two hours on the cutest treasure hunt for the other kids. The treasure—pictures and love notes for them. (: One example:

Xander shared his candy with everyone in the family. He also was so good to be quiet this afternoon and let us have a nap. Elli always makes us smile with her little songs—you cannot listen to her sing and not feel the pure love of Christ she exudes. Jessica showed us a powerful example of love tonight. We were playing a board game and she was sitting on Jeremy’s lap. His leg got sore, and he told her she needed to get off. For some reason, it broke her little heart, and she walked off sobbing. A couple of minutes later, she came back into the kitchen with red puffy eyes carrying drinks for Jeremy and me. This sparked a great conversation about how to act when someone hurts our feelings. We decided as a family that for one week, every time someone does something to us that makes us sad or upset we are going to turn around and serve them. Good job, Jesi!

And finally, Graci and her Achievement Days girls sang “Where Love Is” in Sacrament meeting today. It was the best Valentine. She looked so so beautiful and smiled during the whole song. She was just glowing. There was a line in the song, “the happiness we feel when love has found us” that brought tears to my eyes. I thought of how far she has come in the last couple of years. She has evolved into such a beautiful young woman. She is responsible and thoughtful and caring. Most importantly, I feel that she has finally found her place in our family—she is secure in our love and happy in our home. We love her beyond words. She has blessed us in so many ways.

With that, I am so burdened to share that her health is not as good as we want it to be. It seems that Graci has recently developed pulmonary hypertension. In simple terms, the arteries in her lungs have narrowed and hardened, making her heart work too hard to get blood to her lungs. The past couple of weeks have brought an EKG, ECHO, and a cardiac MRI. This Friday, she will undergo surgery in the cath lab. They will be trying some different medications and seeing how her heart responds to them. The results of the surgery will be pivotal in knowing what exactly we are facing here. Even though I have tried to not worry until we know more, I can’t help but feel the wind has been knocked out of me and I am left gasping for air. We were not expecting this. We also found out this week that she has cervical stenosis and will need to be seen by the top neurosurgeon at Primary Children’s.

We need this little girl with us, so please, know that we would love your prayers. One of my friends offered to fast for her on Friday. I loved that idea, and would invite any of you who feel so inclined to join our fast. It would obviously mean the world to us, as she means the world to us.

With the storm always comes a rainbow, and we are so happy to share with you some very very exciting news! It deserves a post of it’s own—and I’m going to work on it right now so Teri will still like me!! Check back soon!

Happy Valentines Day!


  1. We will pray for sweet Gracie. What a special young woman. She has gone through so much in her short life. Here's to hoping that things will settle down for her and she will be able to thrive and grow. Love you all.

  2. I Love all the late night talks I had w/Graci over Christmas break. :-) She is a one and only! Of course she's in our prayers...

  3. Beautiful post! That music really added to the spirit of it all. We will remember your family in our prayers and put your names on the temple prayer roll here. I think Lexi is a beautiful name.

  4. I will of course be joining the fast. I have a special place in my heart for Princess Graci and will be praying for her and thinking of her constantly.

  5. My response to this post has taken me awhile to compse. I, too, am sort of reeling from this news. Was she having symptoms/difficulties?

    Over these last years, I have seen Graci grow and change in her ability to love and think of others.

    I have watched her go from having blue nail beds and lips to having pink lips and cheeks; to enjoying dance lessons and slumber parties.

    I have rejoiced over and over with the wonder of it all.

    Of *course* I will fast. Of *course* I will pray.

    She is a child of my heart, that child of yours. She always will be. Thank you for letting her be.

    Prayerfully yours,

    Aunt Teri

  6. Dear Graci,
    I need to thank you for a simple act of kindness you extended to me last time we were visiting at your house. I was resting in bed while you were babysitting Jessi and Elli. (What an amazing sitter you are.) Because of my medical condition, I began crying in pain. I didn't want to upset you, but I called out for you to come. Then I asked you to lay on my back because the pressure would help with the pain. I will never forget how you stroked my hair and rubbed my shoulder and so tenderly told me "It's okay, it will be okay." And stayed with me until, indeed, it was okay. No one have ever been so tender to me in my sickness. I love you dearly beautiful Graci!
    Much love, Grandma Rose